Updated: Apr 28, 2022
A good friend of mine tried to make a move on me today. He only went for a kiss, which I was easily able to walk away from, but then it turned into this huge conversation about us being friends with benefits. Honestly, I’ve never had that type of relationship before, and I’m not quite sure how I should feel about it.
Obviously, he finds me attractive if he wants to have sex with me… right? But then again, maybe he just thinks I’m easy, because who goes around asking people if they want to have sex? I don’t know if I should be offended or take it as a compliment. He’s very attractive and we have a lot in common, but I’m not sure if it’s the healthy thing to do considering I don’t already have the best self-image.
Part of me is enjoying the fact that someone finds me attractive; I’m not used to that feeling. I’ve spent so much of my life being on the outside, watching my friends grow in serious relationships and even get married. I can’t seem to hold onto someone for more than a year (if that).
The way he said it though sounded really disrespectful. He asked me if I wanted to get laid, like he’s doing me some favor. Then it was the awkward question of where we’re going to do it. He so kindly offered a motel or car… Yeah so romantic. My first response back to him was I’m not a cheap whore. In reality, if we were going to be friends with benefits, we really don’t have a whole ton of options as to where we can do it because we both live at home. Am I just giving him a hard time, or am I trying to preserve my self-dignity?
In the end, I basically told him we should just be friends, without benefits. Part of me wonders what it would have been like though; it could have been a great corrective experience, or it could have been another trauma waiting to happen. I guess I’ll never know because I’m not one to take risks like that.
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